There is a quiet question I hear from so many women in their 40s… “Is something wrong with me?”
Because things feel different…
Your body doesn’t respond the same way it used to… Desire shifts – or disappears. Intimacy feels more complicated than it used to. And no one really talks about it in a way that feels honest, grounded, and supportive.
So, we start to internalize it. We question ourselves. We assume we’re the problem. But what if that’s not true?
This week on the BecomingYOU@40 podcast, I sat down with Dr. Jireh Serfontein, a sexologist, to have a conversation I believe every woman in midlife deserves to hear.
We talk about:
- What sexual health really means in your 40s
- How hormones impact desire, energy, and connection
- The role of body image and self-worth
- Why emotional intimacy becomes even more important
- And what thriving—not just “functioning”—can actually look like
But more than anything, this conversation is an invitation.
To stop trying to go back to who you were in your 20s, and start getting curious about who you are NOW.
Because your body isn’t failing you.
It’s asking you to relate to it differently.
With more awareness.
More compassion.
And more honesty about what you need.
And if, as you listen, you feel something stir – A realization or a discomfort, or even a quiet longing for more connection with yourself – Please don’t push that away. That’s not random. That’s your starting point.
This is the exact work I support women through—
- Rebuilding trust with their bodies,
- Reconnecting with themselves,
- And learning how to feel at home again in this season of life.
You don’t have to navigate this alone. Follow the link below to listen to the full episode.
There is so much more available to you than you’ve been led to believe.
Have a wonderful week!
With love,
Chaneen